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sufferings. While most of the aspects of sleep and sleeplessness have received much attention from specialists in human physiology, the relation between sleep and coitus appears to be but little r

satisfied for some time after the acute stirring of his longing for physical contact wit

eeling find their ending in the explosive completion of the act, at once the tension of his whole system relaxes, and h

and disappointment of an anti-climax. But not only is this sleep a restorative after the strenuous efforts of the trans

n they too have had complete satisfac

e-racked to watch with tender motherly brooding, or with bitter and jealous envy, the slumbers of the men who, thro

hours or for the whole night; and I feel sure that the prevalent failure on the part of many men to effect orgasms for the

with anyone else, and, while they were both keen and intelligent people with some knowledge of biology, neither knew anything of the details of human sex union. For several years her husband had unions with her which gave him some satisfaction and left him ready

re of women's needs and spent sufficient time and attention to them to ensure a successful completion for her as well as f

ived of the relief and pleasure of perfect union. But in so many married women sleeplessness and a consequent nervous condition are coupled with a lack of the complete sex relation, that on

e of the very existence of orgasm in women, or look upon it as a superfluous and accidental phenomenon. Yet to have had a mod

e very difficult and need much study and consideration. It is, however, worth noticing how prevalent sleeplessness is among a class of women who have never had any normal sex-life or allowed an

d as it is for the married woman who is thwarted in the natural comp

orce. The married woman, however, is not only diffusely stirred by the presence of the man she loves, but is also acutely locally and physically stimulated by

ed of the physical delight of mutual orgasm (though, perhaps, like so many wives, quite unconscious of all it can give), she sees in the sex act an arrangement where pleasure, relief and subsequent sleep, are all on her husband's side, while she is merely

-to speak of the things most near and sacred to her heart. And she may then be terribly wounded by the inattention of her husband, which, coming so soon after his ardent demonstrations of affection, appears peculiarly callous. It makes him appear to her to be indifferent to the highest s

nd so bitter to one who has other causes of complaint, that in their turn they

cal results of our thoughts, but it is now well known that anger and bitterness have e

towards her husband. She is probably too ignorant and unobservant of her own physiology to realise the full meaning of what is taking place, but she feels vaguely tha

f vague reproach and inexplicable trivial wrongs which are all the expression she gives to her unformulated physical grievance. So he is likely to set do

makes matters worse; for as a general rule, he is quite unaware of his wife's rhythm, and does not arrange to coincide with it in his infrequent tender embraces. As he is now probably sleeping in another room and not darin

ssary to mention some of the immensely profound influences which it is

the body develop abnormally or fail to appear. Castrated boys (eunuchs) when grown up, tend to have little or no

by Starling.[7] The idea that some particular secretions or "humours" are connected with each of the internal organs of the body, is a very ancient one; but we have even yet only the vaguest and most elementary knowledge of a few of the many miracles performed by these subtle chemical substances. Thus we know that the stimulus of food in the stomach sends a chemical substance from one ductless gland in the digestive system chasing through the blood to another gland which prepares a different digestive secretion further on. We know

acter of the immense stimulus of sex-life and experience on the glands of the

more than the physiologists. But it is most important that every grown up man and woman should know that through the various chemical substances or "messengers" (which Starling called t

profoundly important organs as those connected with sex

the female system as a resu

igestive secretions. When, as is the case in orgasm, we have such intense and apparent nervous, vascular and muscular reactions, it seems inevitable that there must be correspondingly profound internal correlations. Is it con

siological effects. Did we know enough about the subject, many of the "nervous breakdowns" and neurotic tendencies of the modern woman coul

ighly-trained physiologists. There is nothing more profound, or of more vital moment to modern

of definite stimulus; the latter appear to be perpetually exuded in small quantities and always to be entering and influencing the whole system. In women we know there are correspo

tedly high proportion of married women who get no satisfaction from physical union with their h

ic woman has become a by-wo

ce of both men and women regarding not only the inner physiology,

f an Austrian gynecologist who said that, "of every hundred women who come to him with uterine troubles, seventy suffer from congestion of the womb, which he regarded as due to incomplete coitus." While

ery sense, rightly performed, the healing wings of sleep descend both on the man and on the woman in his arms. Every organ in their bodies is influenced and stimulated to pla