The Chronicles of a Survivor

tes so that when we reach our twenties, we are not struggling, and we are getting our degrees. Younger me had envisioned me being done with high school by eighteen, getting into a prestigi

He had nothing when he came to South Africa. He had no clothes on his back, no money, and no job. Today he is one of the most successful men. My mother and father had been married for over 27 years. I always envied their relationship because I struggled to find a man like my father. They were the most truthful and honest marriage known in the Malawian community. Growing up made me realise that not even my parents have the rosiest marriage. They had been a thorn poking at their marriage. Emotional unavailability was the thorn that had played a significant role in their marriage. As children, we do seek for men that are like our fathers. At this stage of my life, I was okay with men that were not available for me emotionally. It had become a normalised standard. I became okay with men that desired me sexually, and so no less than who I really was. They were times where these men woul