Hints for Lovers

ve il sole e l

an

iddle, and end o

infinite; and love mor

love, here are two things whi

s the t

art en

il

n

erulean hue. (What a pit

on, then desecrate the fane; it will give all, yet ruthlessly seize everything; it delights in pleasing, yet it sometimes wittingly wounds;

orld, not even love: it must g

e which surmounts the gre

ant; to others an ailment.

aracter, so is

eepest love i

ble as it is un-ap

merciless to its votar

han surrender; would for

r the patient immune-at all events

e vaccinated i

ehend and reciproca

er not at all, the other is unwittingly blind and deaf to love's clamors

understand the pan

only one sign: the expression of the eyes. Who tha

ove-light shine in

infinite appeasement, or promises untold; an adoration supreme, or a complex oblation; tenderness ineff

rs of heaven, shall enumer

; though, as Ovid says, love

e by chance, it wou

("Ars Amandi"); he wrote on the

dus amor."-"Ars

the visible universe. But when love com

ing in this world, is the great bringer-together of hearts, begin

ws about its object a sacred aureole, which awes at t

path of love? How many try to w

er plane; but nothing higher tha

ut which love does no

d when on the mount, we can very trul

to the true love of a faithful woman, it has no

hings loveable,-excep

woman yet who was not

dent and fearful of its

every woman

of love and not the V

al lover should bew

rdis, l'amour nous rend timides.

erities of Truth and Love and Justice never leave the thr

he ME into one-that is

ssible. Ye

elieve in the impossibility of this am

is favorable

an exchange. The lover, indeed, gives h

it, and nothing in the heavens above or in the earth bene

uman wight has tried

t he or she will live for days in the remembe

reate love; the intensest and most fervent lov

y exalt the object of its devotion to the skies; but it c

concealed;

e altitude of love, the lo

ways be kept a

f life, the old know it is a turn in the c

a very large part. And this may

woman, as her every-day morality. The former is the more

ery near akin: both ins

n

he basis of religion, there never

ion in which there hav

at once its object

of the same emotion: awe, reverence, worship, a

no creed.

elf and accepts no sanctions but i

ined to offer a liturgical acquiescen

al domination of Rea

ere has ever been strife

thics: one that of the r

cal head. Who shal

mething is due to Reason; and Reason, in its highes

icity in the human sou

: love. Yet love

ove enters on an e

s effort to reali

to uninhabitable realms; promises insupportable

myriad coun

terpret the word

erpret the word lov

es but once in her whole life-day; it floods everything

appear every hour of her life, and nor she nor her world is one whi

h of her seekers is worthiest, which most zealous, which merely takes her fancy, and which appeals to her hea

passionate impulse, detest ca

atter of love, says man, why should woman s

ove-and legitimately- and naturally; perhaps l

, not the potency of the impulse of the moment, but the

gly obeys grea

and a rigid atomic equivalent. And so it may be; but, like the philosopher's stone

ips with all sorts of substances, but also, like many another chemical body, takes on the most varied forms, not onl

harmonical vibrations; harmonizing with some, and making discord with other, notes by regular but unknown laws; differing according to the timbre of the

of love.-Changing that

is like light: all-pervading, universally diffused, and reflected and refract

anyone point to anything on ea

e greater light draws it upward-none the less veritably be

the bud-the babe-dawn-and the first beginnings of love. So

lk, two particular hearts should worry themselves into

how narrow a circle of acquaintances men and women choose their spouses. Were P

that the argument is utterly fallacious. Yet Unless passion is guarded by

bud, esteem and passion-like calyx

wn flower that displays

ve could rema

e a flash; to others a

is kindled, it devours

u

, needs, not only venti

spark is nourished

, and it di

less it retains something of the ro

n empty compartment is as good as a cop

e than take. Yet, if the giving i

no half meas

in of her lover's heart. But she will never

, it is perhaps b

dies mutually attractive is admittedly difficult.

to each the sum-total of life, are oft

ves him, by consequence she will love his wo

n who can unders

in the market-place in the camp; for an equal length of time

es to his natur

ng the world; he wears quite a

frigid, austere, sever, pere

. . . . .Hum

om woman's love what woman's love cannot give; but set thy

siness in the

usiness in the

is woman's, and takes on a finer edge. For this very reason it is the more easily turned, and is the

ually a highly e

hirst: he makes a great fuss over it

rpast, it is fortunate if affe

the man who

ge, has not some dubious reflections as

n, generally, who mak

murder) w

secret better

trols love: a man is

ing-believe to be "fancy

and that of her lover-to prove it true. A man would as soon as thi

imate arbitrator. If she is loved, love in

unknown. With them love IS honor. And ther

haritable-fiction that women shou

aises and Thaises make a show

love was ever spoiled

ffers from the logic of the

The senses

rque upon the rocks to prove

ts that it is possib

imes vivisects as unconsciously

of love while it is st

is to

imself. Except perhaps in this once circumstance: when she herself is i

ine infatuation is given

ine caprice is given to

e belief that love will create love. Nothin

ope, has its m

a love that mistook a simu

e is a contradi

oes not, that is the conc

ather suffer

rld to be able to excu

ve is perhaps a

isdain

carries a sca

shame soon follows. Then indeed the

t the same love never recurs, as never a bud opens twice:

dorous flower of passion ripens into th

es careful

t its culture.-True, An orchid may life on

rives on the humble appl

bian

tory successes of middle

atory, age is

ake love to a gentleman of

ty of youth succumbs bef

s wonder that the benedick and the bride ar

t, matrimony is no

r at which love wi

forgive

e, though it might blus

ds amazed at its own d

olate itself for

ng is common o

, thinketh no evil

phrodite (5) that dares

rthe

vulnerable of t

would be cautiously acce

n pulse, is to make the

o

e love light in one's own ey

worth the day when the troth was plighted!

al to love; for love knows

l conventional

world populated by two-and these

fling honor to the winds, and yet the twain regard each o

that not even a community of tw

e outraged, those divin

the divine love. A

red which was long sought, there supervenes upon the lovers a great tenderness, w

conqueror to be clement, an

worship of the sou

tenderness is the tru

ights, depths beneath depths: who

, "Symposium"